It’s a “We” Thing

by Kathie on August 21, 2008

in Simply Living

I woke up in the middle of the night completely surrounded and enveloped in love.  I was sleeping on my back and awoke with Jeff’s head resting on my shoulder, his arm around my waist, Meggy was on top of my chest, with her face as close to Jeff’s as possible without actually touching his chin, and Patches was snuggled up at my side.  Thankfully the weather has cooled down enough that I could appreciate the love without wanting them all to get away.  I laid there for a few minutes and just basked in what is my life, let me just tell you its pretty darn good, this life.  I’m so grateful, so very grateful. 

Because I do the writing on this blog, the word I gets used most often, however; don’t let that be a distraction from the Two part of Two Frog Home.  Everything that happens around is here is very much a “we” thing, a team effort.  While we each have individual chores, tasks, and hobbies  (I do the cooking and enjoy sewing, Jeff does the auto repair and enjoys 8-ball), we feed off of and help each other constantly.  I am the Kathie (or the Katie as Jeff calls me) that I’ve become because of Jeff and his unconditional love for me.

I don’t happen to believe that women need to be married or even in a relationship, I believe that we are all sufficient without being a part of a couple (the same applies to men).  I will say, however; that I am so much better because of my relationship with Jeff.  He grounds me, gives me purpose and meaning, while supporting, encouraging, and sometimes curtailing me.  I think that’s what family is supposed to be, and I can’t imagine my life without Jeff as my family.

I’ve become the me, I’ve always wanted to be (more or less – there’s always new journeys and improvements to be made).  I don’t live in the perfect, unblemished world that my dreams tend to dwell in, however; I can’t imagine a better way to live and love.  As a teenager or young woman in my early 20s, there was no way I would have been able to predict what has become my life (thank goodness) or how one man could so easily change it.  The truly amazing part is that, that man, my Jeff, didn’t want to change my life, he simply encouraged me to just be, be who I am without any reservations or hesitations.

So, for all those times when I use the word I, know that I wouldn’t be writing this blog if not for the other frog, my Jeff.  Proper credit where credit is due. 

Thank you Jeff, you are the love of my life.

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Phelan August 21, 2008 at 4:10 am

I have been feeling all mushy about my ol’ man lately as well. Maybe it’s the weather ;)

We never had a wedding, We were married by the HR Diirector at Big Dog Motorcycle, and I had no idea until the next day.

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Robbyn August 21, 2008 at 6:19 am

I feel the same way about Jack…life with him is definately a We thing, and he loves me just as I am…actually adores me, and works hard to keep my world secure, gets as excited as I do about new things and each step of our mutual dreams…he lives in the Now of togetherness. What a gift he is.

Phelan, we had a justice of the peace wedding and I had 104 degree fever…lol! The woman at the marriage license office flirted so brazenly with him (he was totally unaware) that I about flattened her (well not really but one can dream, ha!)

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Nita August 21, 2008 at 6:37 am

Well said, having a soulmate is the best!

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JoyceAnn August 21, 2008 at 7:28 am

Great post , I often catch myself writing ~ we ~ in my post , after 30 years together , I’m comfortable with ~ we ~.

I was puzzled by your visit to my blog the other day , Katie Said ……. I thought I had been calling you the wrong name. I went to your blog and it said Kathie , so I’ve been wondering about your name. This post clears up that mystery (LOL).

Hope your day is Wonderful !

~ Blessings ~
JoyceAnn

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bikingala August 21, 2008 at 7:48 am

OK, second post today that got me teary-eyed (Robbyn’s was first).

I’m also one of the lucky ones, and I love when I see others as blessed as I am. I’m so happy you found your soul mate too.

Phelan, I LOVE the wedding story :-)

Paulette

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Meadowlark August 21, 2008 at 8:54 am

Not a soul mate. And sometimes we’ve just barely been able to hang on. We are night and day. Completely and totally.

But we recently celebrated 23 years and as he’s loosening up and letting me be ME, things are improving. Perhaps even GOOD, but I hesitate to jinx myself. :)

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Meadowlark August 21, 2008 at 8:54 am

Not a soul mate. And sometimes we’ve just barely been able to hang on. We are night and day. Completely and totally.

But we recently celebrated 23 years and as he’s loosening up and letting me be ME, things are improving. Perhaps even GOOD, but I hesitate to jinx myself. :)

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Aimee August 21, 2008 at 4:42 pm

What a lovely post…

It’s a we thing on my blog too, even though I am the one writing and sometimes it seems that I am doing it all myself. :)

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Allie August 22, 2008 at 1:11 pm

This is such a beautiful post!

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Safira August 24, 2008 at 7:48 pm

That’s lovely. *sniffle* I’m another lucky lady who’s part of a great team–and oddly enough my darling is also a Jeff.

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